Can’t speak for them, but for myself the prospect of having both parents out of the house working while some sort of state sponsored babysitter raises our children is an incredibly shitty way to have a “family.”
This was largely the norm even in the western world up until the late 1940s. What sucks is that in the process we’ve lost “the village” to help raising kids and now couples just try and power through on their own.
In addition, multigenerational families can help a lot. Once my partner and I have kids, it’s gonna be a huge help because her cultural background is from South Asia, so her parents fully expect to (and want to!) be significantly involved in raising their grandkids, especially while we’re working.
Can’t speak for them, but for myself the prospect of having both parents out of the house working while some sort of state sponsored babysitter raises our children is an incredibly shitty way to have a “family.”
This was largely the norm even in the western world up until the late 1940s. What sucks is that in the process we’ve lost “the village” to help raising kids and now couples just try and power through on their own.
In addition, multigenerational families can help a lot. Once my partner and I have kids, it’s gonna be a huge help because her cultural background is from South Asia, so her parents fully expect to (and want to!) be significantly involved in raising their grandkids, especially while we’re working.