I believe you handled this situation well, kudos for keeping a level head and trying discussion rather than employing a knee-jerk reaction and blocking the entire instance (or defederating)! Especially considering some of the comments made (like those about your country) seem to have hit you in the feels.
Imho some hexbear users make really high quality posts / comments and engage in discussion or discourse… While some shit-post and meme everywhere and anywhere. I would be lying if I claimed that I never cracked a smile over a few of these :3
As always, users have the option of blocking any community they find distasteful. I maybe biased in this regard though as the major reason I joined .ee was the “open” approach to federation… If users are seeking more of a “curated” environment may I suggest one of the many, many instances which would better suit their preferences.
I’d suggest you take a look at the @usernames of commenters in communities you like then lookup their home instance list. This list can be found at: instancename.here/instances Example: admin@lemmy.ml is hosted on the Lemmy.ml instance. Therefore: https://lemmy.ml/instances
This will bring up a giant wall of text. First heading “Linked instances” are those federated with, second “Blocked instances” is those not federated with. Using Ctrl+F, “Find in page” or “Find” is incredibly useful here.
Hopefully this’ll help you now and in the future!