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Hey, I just want to say that I have a similarly tragic backstory, and I see you. It’s never easy, but it does get easier.
If you really don’t care about pronouns but want to signal that you realize they’re important to people, why not try he/they on for size? People will probably default to “he” which you’re accustomed to, but if someone uses “they” would you really notice?
Well the good news is that “they” is no gender identity I’ve ever heard of. It’s the third-person pronoun to be used when gender either doesn’t matter or is unknown. For example, “I got an email from a new client, I wonder what they want?”
Anyway, I guess what I’m saying is that pronouns themselves aren’t genders. You should list whichever pronouns you’re comfortable being used for yourself, and the presence or absence of them from your profile says nothing about your personal beliefs.