Bigotry deserves nothing but chiding derision. Bad faith gets met with bad faith. How is that hard to understand?
“I’m being hostile to you because you deserve it.”
That isn’t what I said. Cause and effect can’t just be swapped around all willy-nilly like that. This is called gaslighting when its done intentionally but when its done unintentionally it can often be a sign of a personality disorder.
Maybe a bit. Is it abelist to point at bones sticking out of someone’s leg and say “you might have a broken leg?” I’m not saying op does have a personality disorder but the causality switching thing is a red flag to me due to past situations.