I think the term you’re looking for is internal monologue. I can’t really answer the question, but as I am bilingual I do sometimes catch myself thinking without having an internal monologue and I can tell I’m thinking but haven’t reached a conclusion almost like watching a progress bar while the language part of my brain catches up.
Solving the fragmented community problem is something I’ve been pondering too, and the meta-community idea you described seems interesting.
Obviously, a proper technical solution will be difficult. Federation comes with a host of challenges, as well as benefits.
Giving communities the opportunity to be open to other like minded people on different instances would be beneficial to the network, for a number of reasons.
If two communities on different instances have the same name, it doesn’t seem crazy to ask each of them if they’d like to federate with each other.
That way, apart from instances defederating, discussions could continue even if individual servers go down.
Of course, people love to hold on to their little fiefdoms, so the issue is as much social as technical.