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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Unfortunately that same community is about 460 people on Lemmy. There’s been three attempts thus far, the main 460 person community seems to be the one that’s sticking. At the beginning a couple of the regulars posted on the communities reddit sub, and were instantly threatened with permabans, and any mention of Lemmy on their sub apparently gets deleted and results in bans. I couldn’t make this shit up, it’s pretty unhealthy. But there is tons of local content on the reddit sub. We were an affected family that were involved in a local crisis last fall for example, and it was really useful for that as well, to connect with other local affected people in a way that couldn’t be directly tied back to us by any adverse parties, so we could voice frustrations and support each other. Thankfully I have an alt account that is unbanned, so I could use it for that. But it’s still really irritating, I’m a grown adult, but it still just bums me out that people can act like that, I dunno.






  • I’ve been using reddit a bit the past couple weeks, it’s getting pretty dry in the fediverse, especially for local content. I got permabanned from our local Reddit communities thread over literally pretty much nothing about a year and a half ago, basically questioning a power mods opinion on something, and then after getting temp banned, asked what the heck like if you aren’t agreeing with me just respond with something, and then I got permabanned.

    Anyways I wrote them a kind note today asking to be unbanned, as it is a pretty big sub (343k users for a city of 1.5M), and a good source of information. Told them like look, I’m pretty boring and I can behave, like could you prevent me from having to create a new alt account and let’s let bygones be bygones?

    The response I got was really condescending, they banned me from mod mail, and basically it was just a really weird response. All they had to say was no, thanks, and I would have moved on with my day. I think some of the mods are suffering from some pretty serious mental health issues these days, if not a god complex in the slightest. Reddit is a really really unhealthy place, and thankfully those people reminded me of that. I quickly deleted the app from my phone, and I think I’m done for good this time. The fediverse may be drying up a bit, but at least most of the people on it can behave like adults.


  • I got a 73% raise for jumping ship after just under four years at my old job, back in 2021 2022. I was getting nothing but gaslighted when I pointed out that my salary was becoming a bit under the indicated going rate. Which to me quickly indicated that they saw me as disposable, as they refused to respond to clear and well laid out backup. Then the phone rang, so I mean that was that. I did what disposable people do, and jumped out the window.

    I’ve since gotten one promotion and about another 30% increase from my starting rate, which means I’m making more than double what I was just two years ago. But I’m not resting on that. I’m always watching and thinking about what’s next. It’s a competition for my labour, and I will more often than not side with the highest bidder. I don’t give a shit about tenure, or my potential growth, or my so-called future within your company. Unless you show me the path, a well laid out timeline with mutually defined goals that you clearly will stick to, and the money. Then I might care. But even then, I’m always a bit weary, and it’s almost always more rewarding to chase external opportunities and promotions. That said, I’ve also never had an employer that’s truly believed in me and actually been legitimately concerned with my growth before. It’s always been take take take, false promises and failures to actually deliver on insinuated opportunities when the chips fell. Ones mileage may vary though.


  • I think the answer to this is actually fairly simple. When the bossman tells me something’s in my best interest, I’m just immediately suspicious. Like I know in your example it maybe is, you’ve laid out your logic and all of that. But you have to realize that for every good boss, there’s probably 15 bad ones. Western economic, labour systems and power structures have been so lopsided for generations, that it’s literally hard coded in us to be suspicious. Whenever someone comes at me from work with a big smile and excitement, my flags FLY to red alert. Because I’m statistically far more likely to be on the raw side of the deal.