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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • I don’t mean to put myself in the place of anything - I just meant that the better course of action is to find improvement rather than fault. It’s a situation where being able to put the blame on something does nothing to improve the situation. We’re lonely because there are too many people is all.

    There’s a lot of people at fault for things in my life and if I worried about blaming them, I wouldn’t have had the time to get educated and grow as a human so that I could move past the things they are at fault, I was just trying to broaden that idea into something more general.


  • I am sorry you had to experience that, but it is very insightful and aware to know that your trauma would affect the perception. Most would gloss over that.

    Not saying this about you specifically ( I don’t know if you have things about you that you don’t like), but people who have things they don’t like about themselves also have a tendency to see criticism and insults about that particular thing where there are none. Like I used to be really over weight, so anytime anyone made jokes about something being large or about pigs or cows, I would internalize that and assume it was about my fatness because I hated that about myself.









  • I feel like less of a helicopter parent now, thank you.

    My kids have had to make me realize they should be independent in certain things a few times and I always feel bad for overstepping, but it’s hard not to when bad drivers, school shooters and random terrible shit are shoved in our faces all the time. We’ve been programmed to be afraid and it is really hard to not be in our current world of media, internet, and seemingly neverending hatred.