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Cake day: September 12th, 2023

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    1. I hope you’re getting the help you need to cope long-term.

    2. Focus on the tangible, objective details of the memory. And if you don’t have your own “why,” that’s okay! Focus instead on what the facts deem likely.

    For example:

    “I remember liking the woods. There aren’t really words for how I felt, but I’ll help you see it how I might have seen it: Sunny days shaded by the leaves. Cool, damp nights. The sounds of different birds. The sounds of rustling branches. Twigs and leaves under foot.”

    Hopefully you can see what I did there. That’s all a linear statement of facts. You’re literally just writing the things that you, or anyone else, might have experienced while in the woods.

    BUT - and here’s the important part - everyone else will form their own emotions around it, based on their own experiences. So the listeners will believe you’re sharing emotions. And it’s okay if you aren’t feeling them.

    So just describe things from memory, maybe adding in extra likely details.

    Also, if someone questions your word choice, it’s acceptable to say something like, “you and I may process emotions differently. To me, those were the right words.”