That depends entirely on your load. A common approach is sharding. Often memcache can help, too.

We will be hiking together until then.

Debian developer/user here. My marriage just works.

Found the american.

It is a known personality issue.

It is called avoidant personality disorder (AVPD) or schizoid personality disorder (SPD). Both of these conditions can lead to feelings of loneliness due to inner walls and barriers that the person builds to protect themselves from perceived threats or emotional pain.