When I was in college I had school health insurance so I was on some meds that helped my mental health but made me really fat. When i graduated I lost my health insurance, went off my meds, and lost 80lbs in less than a year. People asked me all the time “whats your secret” and they really didn’t like when the answer was “I’m off my meds and want to die, but at least I’m cute now”. At school I was on a meal plan and ate three healthy meals a day and used the school gym 4-6 days a week. I was fat but fit. After graduating I didn’t go to a gym again for about 7 years and still now don’t really eat very healthy or regularly. I’m less heavy than I was in school but I’m not strong or muscle-y like I was when I was fat.

The worst part is, imo, I have health insurance again, but I’d rather be depressed than go back to being fat, because society is so cruel to fat people. Especially on the internet where people are like “it really IS just as simple as keeping a caloric deficit”. That’s just not true.

Anyway, it made sense in my head to respond to you when I started this, but now I think I’ve gotten lost in the weeds a little. I’m not trying to argue with you about anything, I’m just sharing my experience.

Hope everyone can find one thing they love about their bodies today xx

I don’t usually feed the trolls, but I’m going to engage w you as if you were being genuine.

I used to watch Joe Rogan w my ex. My ex was a Bernie Bro. It turned into Jordan Peterson and Andrew Tate. Now he dates women 10 years younger than him and I live with a roommate and am paying off his luxury car that I co-signed for him that has since been repossessed. He kicked me out of the apartment that I paid for because “he couldn’t stand to share his bed with me anymore” because Andrew tate told him he could do better than me. Look, people break up for lots of reasons. We weren’t a good match from the start. But the idea that he’s some high value alpha and I’m a used up ho is just so fucking silly, it was the stupidest most embarrassing way for my 7 year relationship to have ended.

It’s important to hear the opinions of people who disagree with you if they are being genuine. Joe Rogan and the rest are not good faith people. They are promoting disinformation and hate. And I think you are too.

I watched my dad end a lifelong friendship because the friend got sucked down the right wing garbage chute. He has not rebounded from his loss, but he can’t tolerate that friendship and just “not talk abt politics” around the guy.

Be better, my dear. I will not respond again.

My mom mentioned that my dad has been watching some concerning (in her words, “annoying”) YouTube content lately. Last time she said that it was America’s Got Talent, but this time it’s white men arguing with cops. I visited and asked if he would show me. He jokingly said “are you gonna violate my rights?” And I very seriously said “yes. I need to make sure it’s not Jordan Peterson or Joe Rogan or someone even worse”. He got a little bit offended and said “you know me better than that, I’m smarter than that”. But the thing is, you start by watching something innocuous like some idiot sovcit arguing with cops and the algorithm pipeline feeds you nazi shit from there and you don’t even know it.

For context, my parents are the kind of leftists that don’t know what leftists are. My mom calls herself a bleeding heart liberal, and my dad sees the media say things like “radical liberals” and jumps up off the couch screaming “you bet your ass im a radical liberal!” But they’re left of liberal, they just don’t have the language for it.

I’m not worried that my dad is gonna seek out nazi propaganda, im worried it’s gonna find him anyway and I want to throw his phone in a lake.

Maybe shower thoughts wasn’t the right community for me to have my existential crisis. But I wish i could block “sovcit” on my dad’s phone and “trad-anything” on my mom’s phone, not because I think they’re dumb (okay maybe a little) but because this shit is so toxic and intrinsic and scary and my parents are so dumb.

Take care of yourself and your loved ones xx

$2.92 til Friday :,-)

You are entitled to disagree, and as i said before, I do not know Chelsea Mannings’ stance on the matter. Some trans people do refer to their past tense selves with their previous names, or even do not change names after coming out or transitioning. You are correct that court documents will not be altered.

The point that I am making is that, in general, it is considered disrespectful and quite rude to dead name and misgender someone unless they have given you express permission to do so. It’s really not a matter of being technically correct, it’s just a matter of being kind.

Unless you are friends with Chelsea (which I am not), or unless you are directly quoting something out of the court document (and even then, you can just say “Manning”), there’s no need to use the name that she used to go by, and there’s no need to use he/him pronouns. We’re talking about Chelsea Manning right now, but this goes for any trans person that you are not personally acquainted with. Another example would be to say that Caitlin Jenner is an Olympic Medal winner, regardless of what she looked like or what name she won those medals under, or what category she won them in.

Again, not an attack. I’m just making noise.

Hope your night is going well.

(But fuck Caitlin Jenner, she’s a bad person)

A lot of people assume this is the correct way to speak because it’s chronologically correct, but the general consensus in the trans community is that she was always Chelsea Manning, and always was a woman, and the time that she spent using the other name and gender need not be reflected upon. I do not know how Chelsea Manning personally feels about this, and every individual is entitled to their own respect, however the general etiquette when you do not know is to NOT deadname or misgender them, regardless of what era of their life you are referring to.

This is not an attack. Just a PSA.

Have a peaceful evening.

There’s an audience for everything, niche stuff like nutsack tiddies probably pays very well.

I don’t have the energy to cite my sources right now, but I remember hearing that IUD procedures went up something wild like 900% right after the 2016 election. The stats are definitely out there somewhere.

Be well, stay safe xx

I got my fallopian tubes removed the last time he got elected. Really really grateful to my past self, because I do not have health insurance this time around.

Protoyiff has been added to the lexicon. Thank yooooo verymuch.

It’s the 10th of Stan Rawlinson’s 10 Pet Commandments:

-Stay with me on the ultimate difficult journey. Never say, “I can’t bear to watch” or “Let it happen in my absence”. Everything is easier for me if you are there. Remember, regardless of what you do I will always love you.

What a strange, cruel policy from the vet. When I had to put my cat down, my vet had me hold her in my arms while she administered the shot, and then she left the room so it could be just me and my cat til the end. Since I decided to take her body home to bury on my parents’ property, my vet recommended that I show her to my remaining cat so that we could mourn together. She said he would understand what death meant if he got to see her, but he would be distressed more if she just disappeared.

What a hideous policy for everyone involved, shame on this vet/shelter for so many reasons.

Sure, I read your back and forth earlier this morning with that other person, and I agree that if there is even a little room for semantic loopholes, assholes will use it, so it’s better to just be annoyingly specific. At this point in our country’s lifetime, lawmakers should know this, and the crown act should have been so beurocratically definitive of all aspects of hair. But also school officials should be worried about teaching all kids, not this dumb bullshit. :(

xx hope your day is nice and you’re having a good hair day

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I’m a white girl. My hairstyle is “long”. It’s my entire personality.

What they are doing to this young man is grotesque, but I’m not at all surprised the superintendent is being so petty. He’s nothing more than an overgrown racist high school bully.

I just learned this the hard way. I just got laid off and rejected the severance check because in order to get it, we had to sign a thing that said we waived our right to ever sue them for anything

I started using reddit in 2011, I’m not a power user or major contributor by any means. But I’m a lonely person who got joy out of my small niche communities, and I fear those are the spaces that will take the longest to reappear on lemmy, especially because I have no interest in modding or starting any of them myself. I haven’t actually subscribed to any communities on lemmy yet, I’m waiting for the sync app to be ready so things will be more like I’m used to using (aka easier) and then I’ll log into old reddit on my computer, write down all the subreddits I’m subscribed to, and begin to see which ones exist on the different lemmy instances and start to make this place feel more like my lil internet home. I liked tithe reddit experience more when I first started using it, and I’m excited for lemmy to kind of have that feeling again, since it’s new and small still.