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Cake day: July 31st, 2023

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  • I have learned that communication and empathy between men and between women are very different. Other genders tend to have more complex dynamics.

    I think women communicate their empathy more openly. Men usually hide their empathy in gestures or phrases. And I think it’s really hard to show empathy as a man and still “conform”, and as an outsider it’s hard to understand the way men show empathy.

    That said I think you are right to some degree (although there is a better way to phrase it, hence the down votes), you are kinda limited in how much empathy you get from men because of the way they communicate. And if they show more, their non-conformity can pose a social risk that can be dangerous to their social acceptance / standing, although I might be speaking from my own perspective here as an AuDHD guy. Turns out when you have autism you are a walking risk so learning this is just a matter of time and risk is baked into every social interaction.

    What I’m trying to say is: I think you are right, I think the reasons are very complex but I think bro culture needs an upgrade in that regard.



  • Did both. Setting up your own VPN is a bit annoying but when it works it works. Tailscale is really easy and solid. For folder syncing I can recommend using tailscale and syncthing. Install both on both devices, then connect the devices in sync thing (it will reciprocate) and then you can add a folder and share it with the other device. Latency for syncing can be 10s-3min, plus the actual file transfer speed.

    Knowledge level: configuring software and setting up software. Maybe some basic network troubleshooting if it comes up.

    It’s never gonna be as easy as paying for a service that does it for you but this setup is also not that hard.

    If you have questions feel free to ask me or other nerds on here, I’m sure they can help you ^^~



  • What you are raising is a very delicate subject but let’s call it what it is: dating sucks. No matter your gender, there’s hurdles, it’s just really hard to find someone who’s putting effort in. If you’re a woman, it’s because lots of people matching you will be absolute garbage. A friend showed me who was writing her and most of it was weird and creepy. If you’re a man, it’s hard to find someone who wants to write with you period. And any other genders deal with an equally limited dating pool.

    It makes sense, it’s statistics, mathematically plausible, but damn it sucks. Unfortunately I think we are at the point where these conversation are bound to get eroded by inflammatory rhetoric. So these nuanced discussions are things for the future.


  • Cis man here.

    It’s an issue. It comes in lots of different colors and flavors but it all stems from social issues.

    There’s lots of reasons, some men were never taught about social relationships, men tend to generally be less interested in social interaction thus giving them less experience, some men are ostracized when talking about their social struggles, and these are on top of preexisting environmental factors and preexisting mental conditions.

    At this point it’s important to say: it’s not a contest for genders. Trans people have it hard, nb people have it hard women have it hard. It’s just that this is one of the rare times men’s struggles are not addressed properly.

    I can tell you I probably have about 50 men in my life that I ko and wo are nice but if I had to talk to a man about my struggles socially, there are 2 men.

    Now couple this with the fact 90% of men I had deeper conversations with told me they are struggling with depression and some of them having suicidal ideations, it is fair to assume we have a problem.

    For me, the depression is always exacerbated by social isolation. It makes sense - not getting some feedback from other people can get you into crazy headspaces and there are thinking patterms that literally make you hurt yourself just to make it stop.

    There’s another aspect: we are social creatures and as soon as you don’t get enough “social exposure” it’s harder to learn social cues and “get the vibe”, and other people notice. So the more you isolate, the harder preceding social interaction become and the harder it is, which in turn incentivizes isolating. A vicious cycle.

    Now not everyone has these issues and I would never say that it’s the most important issue in our current society but every time I hear suicide statistics by gender it really puts into perspective that we should get to know those people who we have failed.

    One thing I also wanna address is the idea that “men are never taught how to socialize”, because I think it implies a lot of things. First, I’m sure a lot of men are not, but a good number of men are. I was for example. It didn’t help, but that was never the issue for me. Second, it implies men want to be taught. I spoke to a group of 2 men and 2 women with mental disabilities about if they ever considered complete social isolation. The men said yes and the women said no. I think this is really significant and can give insight into why this is affecting men more than other genders. I would infer from this that women always see the benefit in social interaction, and men pursue social interactions rather as a means to an end. This might be a stretch but this supported by other observations of friends and family.

    This topic is really important and I hope it gets talked about more - for the benefit of everyone who wants to see people become happier. The men affected by loneliness, as well as the people who deal with them.


  • I’ll take the low hanging fruit and discuss whether this is in line with the community rules:

    You are violating rules 1, 2, 5 and arguably 10.

    1 & 2 need to no further argument; they are syntactical in nature.

    Rule 5: Is about not posting something to further an agenda or spurr debates. Your post is more argument than fact and description. I think that’s pretty self-explanatory.

    Rule 10: the fact outlined is not true, and we don’t need to have a religious discussion about that; we can merely look at this in isolation. Whether Jesus is real or not can’t be proven because we project something personally onto him. If you believe in Jesus, that’s fine, but this hasn’t passed the scientific threshold of being a fact.











  • Just tried out Kodi on Android but I’m sorry, the app sucks. No native addon browsing, the keyboard is custom but incredibly small on my phone, navigation is weird, there’s no back button and my main buttons on the phone get hidden so I always have to manually show them again. The design is unappealing and for some reason it really wants access to my devices microphone.

    Literally the worst one I’ve tried and I didn’t even get to the video player, which everyone says stops working every once in a while.



  • This.

    I have taught highschool teens about AI between 2018 and 2020.

    The issue is we are somewhere between getting better at gambling (statistics, Markov chains, etc.) and human brain simulation (deep neural networks, genetic algorithms).

    For many people it’s important how we frame it. Is it random word generator with a good hit rate or is it a very stupid child?

    Of course the brain is more advanced - it has way more neurons than an AI model has nodes, it works faster and we have years of “training data”. Also, we can use specific parts of our brains to think, and some things are so innate we don’t even have to think about it, we call them reflexes and they bypass the normal thinking process.

    BUT: we’re at the stage where we could technically emulate chunks of a human brain through AI models however primitive they are currently. And in it’s basic function, brains are not really much more advanced than what our AI models already do. Although we do have a specific part for our brain just for languages, which means we get a little cheat code for writing text in comparison to AI, and similar other parts for creative tasks and so on.

    So where do you draw the line? Do you need all different parts of a brain perfectly emulated to satisfy the definition of intelligence? Is artificial intelligence a word awarded to less intelligent models or constructs, or is it just as intelligent as human intelligence?

    Imo AI sufficiently passes the vibe check on intelligence. Sure it’s not nearly on the scale of a human brain and is missing it’s biological arrangements and some clever evolutionary tricks, but it’s similar enough.

    However, I think that’s neither scary nor awesome. It’s just a different potential tool that should help everyone of us. Every time big new discoveries shape our understanding of the world and become a core part of our lives, there’s so much drama. But it’s just a bigger change, nothing more nothing less. A pile of new laws, some cultural shifts and some upgrades for our everyday life. It’s neither heaven nor hell, just the same chunk of rock floating in space soup for another century.