there’s some days where she’ll want to talk to me, follow my accounts, say things to me, and then call me an annoying b*tch.

she’s nice in public, i’m assuming so others don’t think she’s mean, but what i mainly don’t understand is why she talks to me since she hates me so much and did nothing but harm me.

  • Em Adespoton@lemmy.ca
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    Abusive people are generally selfish and manipulative. As such, they know that abuse has to be 1:1, with the appearance of normalcy to everyone else. Being rude in public would cede their abusive power over any individual.

    EXCEPT

    When abusive people gain a critical mass of followers in public, the behaviour reserved for 1:1 interactions goes public, and they start behaving in public like they always do in private.

    A good example of this is Donald Trump.