You’re simplifying things.
You can’t disregard privacy discussions as “they know everything anyway”. There is a vast difference between what they know when you install Instagram/Threads and use it everyday and when you use nothing relevant to Meta. At the same time, I’m not sure how federating means your privacy is threatened either. (Let me know if I’m wrong here)
“We could just fork away” is also a wrong idea. Everyone on tech groups are crying about Manifest v3, why are they not just forking Chromium? Think of RSS. Open source coders can never compete with a billionaire dollar company with a massive user base. It’s pretty easy for Meta to dominate the platform.
I’m not completely against federating with Meta, think there could also benefits to this, but it’s also a pretty risky for the future of fediverse in my opinion

I hate to say this opinion would be minority even on Lemmy. People value convenience over anything else

I’d like to see the logistic version as well!

yes it’s sad :(

I joined Lemmy a while ago and I suddenly got exposed to many “tankie” debates going on. Is there a reason this group suddenly became relevant on Lemmy (I mean, from the view of a Reddit migrant)?